You could do this by remembering a time you actually were in a situation in which you were engaging, friendly, outgoing, interesting and humorous. That situation does not have to be just like the setting you are going into now.
Perhaps the previous situation you recall was when you were teaching your friends how to play Call of Duty, but you “turned on” your personality so much that they loved every moment of their time with you.
Suggestions given under hypnosis, affirmations repeated during deep relaxation as hypnotic or subliminal messages are all ways to access the subconscious mind.
Another way to penetrate the subconscious (although much slower) is through repetition (why affirmations and visualization doesn’t work great all by themselves).
” State is made up of several things, your physiology, which includes your posture, facial expression, movements, vocal tone, breathing, blood sugar level, and overall fitness and health condition.